SJ Longthorne

Men—when you introduce your employee who's a woman and say, "She does all the work"/"runs things"/"keeps us all sane"/etc.: 1-You are not paying her enough. 2-You haven't given her the title or team she deserves. 3-Talking about her contributions doesn't make up for 1 and 2.

I’ve had this from senior women too, unfortunately. Verbal praise in place of actual reimbursement/compensation for being expected to work more than my contractual duties. Maybe it’s a gender thing in some cases, but it wasn’t for me — just lazy management.

The issue is not senior's gender, but the fact that, since you (lower responsibility job) are a woman, you are expected to do your job plus managing, doing emotional work and sometimes even cleaning. If you stick to your paid tasks, you will be undervalued by your superiors

My point is, this actually happened to men, too. At least in my case, gender wasn’t a denominator — it was the fact that we were young and enthusiastic, and management didn’t want to spend time and money rehiring for the roles we covered. Sometimes it is gender, but not always :)

I know what you mean and you are right about it, but this is just not what we're talking about

Then what is this point that I am missing? Do you only want to discuss the times when this happens because of sexism?

I just don't see why we should only talk about the times this happens as a result of sexism. I don't think it's invalid to widen the breadth of this discourse :) Would it still be beside the point if it happened because of race or sexuality?