The coda to this is that I am no longer convinced that Tizon didn't realize Lola was his mother. I thought so this morning.
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Re lola: it means grandmother but is also honorific given to elders who mean a lot to us. By calling her "lola" she was family to the kids
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Yeah I've gotten a really mixed range of answers to this question, suggesting to me that non-PH readers will always miss a key element
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Yeah, there's a lot about that article that ties to difficult concepts in the PH like family (fluid), hiya (shame), TNT, utang na loob
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Utang na loob (debt of gratitude) is huge thing. Without those four concepts it's difficult to grasp everything in that piece. It hurts us.
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(By that i mean so many discussions have popped up from that piece on our kasambahay culture here)
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there are similar situations in India. affectionate terms often serve to make "servant" or "slave" less distasteful to the user.
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Respectfully, I think again it is inappropriate to make conjectures about the Filipino context when neither of us are from it
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lola means grandmother but is generally affectionately/respectfully used w/ older women & is not limited to the context of domestic labour
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I understand. it's similar in India: using affectionate familial term for family, respected community members, some types of domestic labor.
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it's actually even more loose than that, the convention is to use these terms when referring to pretty much anyone older than you.
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totally. there are parallels across many south asian cultures: in Marathi we use "maushi" which is technically "aunt", but used loosely too.
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yes, Lola is like that too. it's actually unusual and even rude not to use it.
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yes! I've been scolded for not being respectful =) (when used for domestic labor, there's a paternalistic distancing. do you find the same?)
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