The most negative he feels about Lola is annoyance that she 1) tells him to wear a sweater 2) gripes about Dad & Ivan 3) hoards containers
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I really appreciated @jaycaspiankang writing about this—Tizon's article dredged up pieces of my familial history toohttps://medium.com/kang-blog/alex-tizon-rip-again-518c197db57 …
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My grandmother was sixteen years old when she married my grandfather, who had two small children and had already been widowed twice.
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She was his neighbor's daughter. He liked the look of her. He needed someone to take care of the house, to take care of the children.
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My grandmother is dead. In her lifetime, other grandchildren tried to get her to tell her life story, but it was too painful to relive.
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Based on the bare facts alone, I know something was wrong with the relationship between my grandparents. I will never know everything.
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There is horrific exploitation embedded in the chains of our familial ties through centuries. No exceptions for any of us.
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For someone, somewhere down the line, our existence—our familial tie—is the basis and rationale for their grief
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We are poison to our own mothers.
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Does Tizon quite get there? Not really, kind of, maybe. But I got there after reading. That's why his article will linger with me.
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The coda to this is that I am no longer convinced that Tizon didn't realize Lola was his mother. I thought so this morning.
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I changed my mind because I found out that "Lola" means grandmother, and he doesn't say so in the article.
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He makes what I think is a purposeful omission. It's possible he knew and wanted readers to get there themselves.
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My bad, I'm being corrected-- Lola is an honorific and it's hard to translatehttps://twitter.com/sarahjeong/status/864710846219337728 …
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Final note, I am not erasing her status as a slave by calling her a wife, I am calling marriages (some today, all historically) enslavement.
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I just gasped aloud and clapped my hand over my mouth. Thank you for articulating this.
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