I need advice for respectfully asking *why* someone made the decision they did. (In a situation where someone presumably had a *good* reason, but my next action depends on my knowing *which reason it was*.) Directly asking "why" always feels like rudely second-guessing them.
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Replying to @s_r_constantin
Good question. Could try: “What happened?” “How did that come about?” “What inspired you to do that?” Avoiding the word “why” is fairly standard advice in psychiatry/therapy. It can be confrontational. Most people don’t have great reasons for why they do things and that’s ok.
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Replying to @AndyMcKenzie
Thanks! Phrasings that use the word "what" instead of the word "why" suddenly sound much less confrontational! Glad to hear this is a Known Thing.
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