But okay, if there *are* people who ask the impossible or unreasonable, why should that cause suffering? Why not just reject all impossible demands?
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To explain this, I have to posit some inherent limitation in what thoughts are possible, and that makes my model more complicated & so less credible, for occam’s razor reasons. Hmm. I’m stuck.
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“Some people demand the impossible” should lead to the update “demanding the impossible is a thing people sometimes do”, but I don’t see why it overcorrects to “all feedback should be interpreted as a demand to do the impossible.”
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They’re not receiving it as an instruction, they’re receiving it as an insult. Computation is the wrong metaphor, it’s more like emotional allergies, which people have in different directions in order to mediate between different strengths. Example from politics:pic.twitter.com/C176wxmWaX
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That's a description of what it *looks* like, on a coarser level. I'm trying to go more mechanistic, more micro-foundations-y, and ask "WHY do some people sometimes receive criticism as insult?" "Because they have [character flaw]" is a label, not an answer to the why question.
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1/ I appreciate that distinction! Mere labeling is indeed useless. Seems to be the same reason people flinch when you pretend you’re about to punch them.
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2/2 The difference to flinch is it’s a reflex of physical survival, whereas to take offense is a reflex of psychological survival (ego defense), and these so differences are reflected in different approaches to psychological survival. The diagram just e.g.’s “diff approaches”
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But maybe I’m not getting what you mean by “micro foundations” — like motivations smaller than what I just described?
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yeah. Why is ego defense a thing? What does it help with? How do you know that there is an ego and what is it made of?
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1) It’s the survival instinct for the idea of the separate self. If it doesn’t exist, we experience it as though it does, so
2) Ego maintains the will to live by not letting the juxtaposition of raw libido and shame about it kill us.
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i got a baaaad feeling about this.
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