I'm pro-natalist, pro-homeschooling, pro-free-range-parenting, and I think it's deeply unhealthy when elites don't have kids or exhaust themselves trying to get their kids into fancy preschools or whatever. But I find myself butting heads with many who feel the same way.
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Bottom line is, WOMEN bear children. If you want to encourage a more child-friendly, parent-friendly culture, you cannot do it without women on board. And many women will be! We like kids! But if you're a pro-natalist man, be mindful of our concerns.
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1. Pregnancy is physically difficult. If you're lucky, it's a challenge; if you're unlucky, it's more like a long illness whose effects can be lifelong. It seriously cuts your productivity. Respect that this is actually a major thing to take on.
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2. Women often want to be "more" than "just" a wife and mother. Please, take that seriously, even if you believe, as I do, that raising children is important. Women have historically been confined to the domestic sphere. We're protective of our newfound rights to go beyond it.
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"I want to pursue my ambitious career while my future wife handles all the kid stuff, meanwhile I haven't found any woman who actually wants to do that, so I blame Society" is not a good look.
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Our society *does* undervalue parenting, so we need to find creative reframes. It's culture-building. It's education. Raising children doesn't play well with traditional career paths, but do you really *want* that path, or do you want something freer? Etc.
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But nobody, male or female, is going to feel respected if you seem to be saying "I expect YOU to do a bunch of dreary scut work that I am too important to do."
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Wage-earning dad/stay-at-home mom families can work great! Certainly better than two-income trap/second-shift families. Division of labor isn't the problem. It's about sensitive framing & mutual respect.
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