relationships.txt

She had a con list about him that's why he's so upset about this

"My girlfriend buys me gifts and remembers all my dumb anecdotes but she uses memory aids so it's cheating."

"Snooping through her stuff is OK tho"

I dunno, it just sounds like a nerdy way to journal imo. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Literally, my boyfriend whaps out Excel at the first available opportunity

This is an interesting example of how people react to the concept of emotional labor. The relationship is good and works, but social conditioning says it's somehow an insult to frame relational compatibility as a result of conscious effort rather than magic warm fuzzies.

This reply is everything! If we were all more intentional in our relationships rather than flying by the seat of our emotional pants we would see red flags faster, set boundaries quicker, and dive in healthier rather than feel our way to a mess. I like the gf, she’s smart.

Torn with this one because yes, slightly strange but she's using it to process her emotional responses to things, and it seems to be working for her

"A spreadsheet is a dangerous tool, Saruman. We do not know who else may be using it."