Ky Schevers

Realized recently that I've participated on and off in different spaces for people stopping transition for around 16 years. Maybe longer than that actually. I started seeking those spaces/resources out before I transitioned because I knew there was a good chance I'd only take...

...testosterone temporarily. I also had a hard time figuring out what exactly I was. I wanted to learn about the experiences of those who took t temporarily and of people whose sense of gender changed over time. I didn't think of any of that as "detransitioning".

I don't even remember coming across the term "detransition" until years later. It just wasn't a thing back then. There were people who stopped transitioning, there were people who saw themselves as trans and then decided that they weren't, but I didn't encounter people who...

...turned that experience into an identity. I didn't find people who called themselves "detransitioned" or "detransitioners" until years later. Anyways, all the spaces I found were trans-friendly and trans-inclusive. It was more about experience than a specific identity.

I hung out in those spaces after I transitioned too because I did end up starting and stopping t and continued to question my gender. Those were spaces where I could find people with similar experiences. I returned to one of them again when my sense of gender became more dykey.

This time it was nearly dead but I ended up meeting a detrans woman on there who I would later end up working with for years, helping to create the rad fem detrans women's community. That's a whole complicated story that I want to tell someday in more detail.

But here's one thing to know. That detrans woman ended up creating a lot of resources for detrans people, including online spaces and she intentionally made them different from previous spaces for people who'd stopped transitioning. She had participated in those spaces too.