Ky Schevers

I could call how rad fems treated me misogyny but I wasn't supposed to see it as a form of transphobia, even though I was specifically being targeted for having transitioned and living as a trans person, even though they were treating me like they were treating trans men.

Detrans women did what we could to support each other but now I feel like some of them encouraged me to put up with abuse for years. Somehow I was just supposed to accept that other members of my supposed community were never going to see or treat me like an equal.

The idea that transmasculine people can find community and "sisterhood" in the rad fem community is such a joke. I was dehumanized so many times, people tried to exploit me for their personal and political agendas and a lot them didn't even see me as a "real woman".

I put up with so much bullshit. It never got better. At first I thought I might be able to educate some rad fems and change their minds but it became very clear they had no intentions of giving up their theories or feelings of superiority. They want someone to look down on.

A transmasculine person or detrans woman who gets involved in rad fem or gender crit groups is joining with people who see them as inferior and are willing to abuse them. The rad fem community is not a safe place for transmasc or detrans people, no matter what it says.

There are plenty of rad fems who try to act better than the more overt bigots but do they kick the bigots out? Do they say this behavior is totally unacceptable and we wouldn't tolerate it and anyone who acts this way will face consequences? I've never seen it.

Transphobic rad fems are a hate group that tries to recruit some of the people they want to eliminate, pretending they can "help" us. It's fucking bullshit. Being brainwashed and gaslit isn't liberation, it's abuse and conversion practices.

I spent years being treated like shit by people claiming to fight for liberation for women. In end it became clear they just wanted to use me to justify their bigotry and lash out at trans people. They didn't give a fuck about my liberation or well-being.