if i didn’t date people based on their family i wouldn’t date anyone so all i can say is know your family, know who you bring around them, and know your partner
this conversation centers interracial romance w/ a yt person whose family is racist but most people’s families are ignorant and violent on a variety of things even if you date a person who’s your race so the rejection isn’t (just) b/c of the family but the partner’s incompetence