Geoffrey MillerVerified account

interesting article! one part I'm not sure about is "...these guys don’t have to be good enough to be a woman’s primary partner." If you have to reify the idea you're not 'good enough' to get some action, what does it do to your psyche? feels kinda dystopian

People differ in their overall 'mate value' and attractiveness as partners. We might as well admit that and deal with it realistically, rather than pretending it's not true.

I get that 'something is better than nothing.' But under monogamy, do people pair up with with mates of equivalent standing all the way down the hierarchy, or do people near the bottom prefer 'nothing' (i.e. refuse to settle)? I think this will resolve my confusion