Why do many heterosexual men hide their porn use from their wives and girlfriends? Because they know many women dislike it. They know the aggression & sexism in porn is offensive to many women. The shame some men feel tells something important.https://www.feministcurrent.com/2018/05/28/men-hiding-porn-use-anyway/ …
Did the shame that gay men felt in the 1950s 'tell them something important' about their sexuality -- or about their society? How about the shame that divorced people felt in the 1930s? Or the shame that some polyamorous people feel today, given anti-poly stigma?
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Good point. Shame is not always a marker of complicity in genuinely oppressive practices & systems. As per your examples, it can be an expression of internalised prejudice, sex negativity, etc. Still, I agree with Murphy that porn users' shame can reflect recognition of its harms
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I would find the whole anti-porn movement more convincing if (1) it didn't systematically misrepresent the psychological research on porn and (2) if it made some more nuanced recommendations about _which_ kinds of porn it thinks are most beneficial, fun, and un-sexist.
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LMAO holy false analogies batman! But what do you expect from an EVO PSYCH professor - like, of course you're going to do everything you can to deflect from misogyny, your profession is already so fond of trying to naturalize it
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Could it be that we all hide our masterbation techniques and supplies? Thinking too much bro
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These groups are not doing something offensive and threatening to half of the human population.
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But then there's this. https://www.bustle.com/p/women-actually-watch-more-porn-than-men-heres-what-it-is-were-watching-63850 … (Not saying it's completely accurate - haven't done my own research. But the "erasure" of women, in this context, isn't very helpful.)
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Live and let live. Polymorphism doesn't resonate with me but what consenting adults do behind closed doors is their business.
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Surely, from an evo perspective porn viewing by men is disliked by many women because it is perceived to threaten the fidelity of the mate relationship? This being more fundamental than any contextual social taboo.
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