That’s not how racism & sexism work. Racism & sexism require a structural power reinforcement of the preference. That structure makes itself known in statistical aggregates such as pay & promotion gaps, and glass ceilings & cliffs.
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The playing field is far from level, has never been level, and that's even true when every single person in the process is fully committed *in their own minds* to fairness. Empirically, discrimination on the basis of race and gender *happens anyway* even when it isn't intended.
It's an illusion to think that any organized social process in the United States, given our social and political history, happens free of gender and racial discrimination. It isn't surprising that you might not see it if you are, like me, a white male. But it shows up in the data