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@paulg very true. There is only so much you can do as a parent.

@paulg As parents, we are, at best, bows: http://www.katsandogz.com/onchildren.html 

@paulg My sense is that the nurture part is a much slower process... why you have to work at it for a couple decades to see much effect

@paulg even more so w/twins ;)

@vpostrel @paulg but I've noticed my siblings and I have changed a lot over the years. Major changes through teens, college, work, etc

@paulg At best you can steer it. Most of the time they steer you!

@paulg especially if they are close in age

@paulg don't forget Random.

@paulg It's really easy to have very strong opinions about parenting when you have 0 or 1 children.

@paulg Is that a vote in nature's favor?