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The idea of spending (small amounts of) "quality time" with your kids is dangerously mistaken, because the best moments happen at completely random times. You not only can't predict them, you may not even know they've happened.
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Absolutely true! For any context / relationships. Most beautiful moments are random n unplanned.
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But still better to explicitly set out time for your kids than to leave it to chance because the best moments are unpredictable? I don't think quality time is mistaken.
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Setting aside 4-hour appointments with each child on a regular basis twice a week is great for building strong
#relationships with each child.#Quality time is the one on one time that you give your undivided attention to your child outdoors, in the kitchen, and in a library.
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Yep, much like that scene in the movie Chef when the kid teaches Twitter to his dad. The dad had no clue that this was a great moment for the kid, until the kid told him.
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Kids don’t want quality time. They want time.
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That idea is flawed from the "small amounts of"
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Yep, "quality time" is about creating the space where random, spontaneous stuff happens. It's where there is no plan...
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Which still implies having & spending the time. I think the meta-point is being obscured. If you don't find the time to spend, none of this happens. Questions of random / spontaneous are less important than "are you present?"
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I always thought 'quality time' is the time we spend with our kids without any (work) distraction.
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Somehow it also implies "small amount but high quality and undistracted (but still small)"
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