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There’s a word for this - spoiling. When I’ve felt envy before, a useful way for me to reframe it is that it’s revealing my preferences to me in the starkest way possible.

Although a lot of times admiration is just envy masquerading itself as hypocritical humbleness. Both envy and admiration can only be good if it inspires some non-zero-sum action perhaps

beware any who choose to destroy rather than uplift

This thread is a good insight into admiration vs resentment. One is optimistic, the other is defeatist. In a defeatist's mind, they've already lost.

Envy is a hard one to deal with. But @Naval gave a good way in a podcast - Imagine "Would I switch places with the one I'm envious of" - Switch everything, not just one aspect where they may be better of. The answer always will be, no.

The envious aren't looking for answers, just confirmation that it was "all luck" and that "runs out". "I am glad you are doing bad because we all are"

I think envy is wrongly vilified. Envy has always been (even if in retrospect) a signal for me that I see & want something I don't have/I'm not (yet). People mistake it for being resentful towards the well-being/doing of others. In my world, envy is allowed,feeling resentful not.

It doesn't have to be "envy" though. It can just be a sense of injustice. I can be aggrieved that other people get to steal from the bank and get away with it. Doesn't mean I want to do it, would do it if I could, or would work my tail off to get to do it.