Seeing my therapist today! Main question I’ll ask today: How can I more reliably do basic mildly stressful things? Like paying bills, brushing teeth, scheduling appointments, etc. Depression/energy isn’t the problem but rather sometimes I have a very low tolerance for stress. 
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Reporting back! So he said there are tons of ways to handle this. You can create routine, distract yourself, create reward systems, and more. The one he wanted me to try was about decoupling and reframing. I’ll describe—
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He had me go through each task & describe why I didn’t like them. For example brushing teeth— I developed dental issues while in the traumatic situation and I’m reminded of it. I need to reframe that as something I choose to do because I’m safe and getting healthy now. Positive.
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Or another— paying bills reminds me of being poor and the stress never really left. Reframing that, reminding myself I’m in a better place now and making it a symbol of progress and strength. Just decoupling negative thoughts from the scenario. I don’t have to think those things.
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Replying to @sehurlburt
YMMV as I know people's relationships with money are varied and personal, but I have gotten *surprisingly* large QOL improvements from moving as many bills as possible to automatic payment, just from having less strings tied around my finger about managing them.
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Replying to @patio11 @sehurlburt
Couldn't do that back in the day when I was still juggling, but since I don't have to juggle anymore, I have everything automatic that I possibly can and the ~4 things that I can't automate due to my international situation get a calendar reminder and defined 30 min a month.
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(My solution for the dopamine hit of "Progress was actually made!", which I will confess to getting more than a little of every time I wrote a check or went down to the convenience store, is that I use most of the 30 minutes to update a spreadsheet.)
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