17. Earlier @katsudonburi was talking about how many of us hug more often at cons than in day to day life. This is true. How to navigate?
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18. Asking, "Would you like a hug?" is one option. Stand back while asking. Do not move closer unless the person gives enthusiastic consent.
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19. If you are AT ALL uncertain about whether that person would be ABSOLUTELY DELIGHTED to hug you, err on the side of NOT TOUCHING THEM.
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20. And remember that consent is important in ALL THINGS. At a party, a friend of mine said that they wished someone recognized them...
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21. I immediately offered to re-introduce them to the person, but my friend said they were tired. This all happened in like 2 seconds.
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22. I dropped the offer and resumed trying to get through the crowd to the door. My friend said, "I really appreciate that you listened."
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23. My friend DID NOT CONSENT to being introduced. My action should NOT have been notable. Pressing someone to do something is never okay.
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24. It's NOT OKAY to press someone EVEN if the thing you want to do is something they have said they might want at a different time!
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25. So, basically, I just want everyone to think a little harder about all this stuff. We need to make our spaces safer.
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26. We need to start by making sure we are being considerate and safe ourselves. And we need to watch out for each other.
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27. Also, finally, like with doing racist stuff, doing harassment is not necessarily a sign that you are forever a deeply terrible human.
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28. If someone tells you something you are doing seems like harassment, take that to heart, think it through, decide how you can NOT DO IT.
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29. Understand that yes, it might be unintentional, but that pointing it out as harassing behavior is not attacking your very existence.
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