IMHO one of the first rules in professional communication is honesty in the aims. Using terms that are potentially demeaning is indicative of covert goals
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Is because it implies, and I may have misunderstood you of course, that speakers and listeners share some equal "blame" so to speak.
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So if I say "you run like a girl" to a grown woman, then she shares blame with me if she gets upset at my rude and sexist outburst.
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That's not how speaking and listening works IMHO.

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Although the receiver does not share blame for the infraction, the receiver is responsible for his/her own response, & some responses are healthier than others. A person who reacts well to interaction with a bully might come away with a new friend.
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I find it a very empathic reaction to what you call a bully. Perhaps we use the word differently. I had tons of bullies in my childhood and beyond and the only reaction that has _ever_ worked well for me was in January 2016 when I finally went to the police.
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A bully who commits assault should be prosecuted. In high school I was once placed head first in a tall trash can, which was then set up on a drinking fountain. Somehow though I left the situation unharmed and with the bully as a friend.
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That's rare — good for you.
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How peculiarly absurd, not to mention borderline illegal, can be suggesting that "A person who reacts well to interaction with a bully might come away with a new friend" What about with a rapist or any other CRIMINAL. Frankly, a very unfortunate comment. Correction: appalling.
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