I’ve been thinking about this all day. I think there is something that hasn’t been said but needs to be considered when applying rules based on averages/aggregates to individuals. What does it do to our personal communications when we disregard our priors about an individual when
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Replying to @zerdeve @IrisVanRooij and
interpreting their choices/behaviors? Are we all merely here to enact social biases or do our underlying thoughts/motives/assumptions matter at all? What purpose does calling out on people based on unique incidents (vs. repetitive behaviors) totally devoid of context and
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Replying to @zerdeve @IrisVanRooij and
completely disregarding our prior knowledge about the person serve? And how does it weigh against harm done against the person? These kinds of criticisms when directed at specific incidences may damage personal communications more than they actually serve a “greater”
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Replying to @zerdeve @IrisVanRooij and
social cause and this is not something to be taken lightly. My two cents.
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Speaking for myself, no bad intention was assumed on anyone who was part in this conversation. I know everyone in this thread to be a warm hearted and conscientious person (both prior and posterior belief)
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Replying to @IrisVanRooij @zerdeve and
I don't think there's bad intentions here either but I think the comment about my generation being sensitive was probably a sign.
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Replying to @o_guest @IrisVanRooij and
Reading through again... Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but I think
@suzi is saying I shouldn't have brought up the gender neutral thing because it is too contentious and issue? And I should value keeping the peace over this point?2 replies 0 retweets 1 like -
Just some more thoughts on this: I'm not sure
@zerdeve meant specifically you. I thought she meant that we should not assume bad intention behind using a word like 'guys' given our priors. That is why I thought I'd clarify that (obviously) no bad intention was assumed.1 reply 0 retweets 4 likes -
Replying to @IrisVanRooij @o_guest and
Further, for what it's worth, I wanted to really clarify to
@twitemp1 that there was no intention to make words 'taboo'. I have been the recipient of silencing-by-taboo-tactic and know how suffocating that can be. Don't want to do this to anyone.1 reply 0 retweets 4 likes -
Replying to @IrisVanRooij @zerdeve and
Agreed with all the above. I certainly didn't assume any negative intent behind "guys" at all. We all make slips.
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I would hope any and all of you would feel free enough to let me know if I use/used a phrase that is exclusionary. I know it can be very stressful to ask another person to change even the tiniest amount, but often it's worth it and often on Twitter people listen when i do it.
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