First, there’s no such thing as “just being objective”. Sheesh! Second, this really is toxic behavior. Third, don’t be a dick. All of us are in this together. While we’re no better than each other, we have the ability to lift each other up.https://twitter.com/Satirony/status/1137138657679368192 …
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Also it's tricky because they don't *need* to pay a third party, they can listen to those who have come out to say kindness is important. But of course no academic will pay other academics for their emotional labour (an undervalued service that it seems only women provide).
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Ultimately, you can't help/train those who have no idea they lack kindness and have no interest in engaging meaningfully.
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It also worries me a little their website uses a comic by Dilbert. Makes me wonder what other blind spots they have. Now, while I don't think one slip (if a slip) means they are clueless about optics I do find it interesting there is a double standard... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scott_Adams#2016_United_States_presidential_election …
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I wouldn't read too much into that myself, but maybe I'm too optimistic! Similarly, I don't think most people fundamentally lack kindness - some people might not show kindness because e.g. they're scared or feel out of their depth.
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I don't think it's a fundamental lack in the sense they can never be kind. I think they have learned not to be in certain contexts. This isn't the example I have like this, I can list off at least another 10 no problem. At least one per year in academia.https://twitter.com/o_guest/status/1137246214293000193 …
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In fact the reason I find it heartbreaking/disgusting is that they can be kind, as evidenced by seeing them do just that, but they chose not to be to certain people.
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Yeah - that kind of thing both saddens and angers me, and you're right that it happens a lot. I guess I'm just more optimistic that things can change, but then I say that from a position of huge privilege on pretty much every dimension...
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(except perhaps my weird surname and tendency to tan quickly...)
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I think there are some people who are genuinely unpleasant but there are also some who are trying their best but lack the skills, have never experienced anything different, feel out of their depth etc. My guess / hope is that the latter is the larger group.
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Regardless, I think this kind of thing should be part of foundational and ongoing training that all academics at all career stages should get. We rely far to much on seniority as a proxy for training.
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