Tweets are like splinter of salience and valence modulation that quickly coalesce into what reflects robust motifs. Even on issues I actually don't really care about, I feel this pull to form opinions on them, despite knowing that what I've been exposed to is a bad basis for it
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As someone who spent many formative years in hockey locker rooms, it's easy to explain: all humans (not just white dudes) enjoy signalling group membership and status. But, for white dudes engaged in a high aggression activity, group status is signalled by being hard, mean, etc.
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As someone who spent many formative years being an immigrant, I can assure you women do not descend into sexual language about men (anybody) anywhere near as often (i.e., basically never) as men seem to based on what men tell me.
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Same for racism when white people think PoCs are not around.
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Because I'm an ethnic minority and let me tell you the things I hear when people think the coast is clear about my people and other ethnic groups... WILD. It's so creepy how when they think "oh, phew, we can chat" — the whole vibe of the room changes.
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My skin is pale enough to grant me white privilege, but oh, fuck, it's also a ticket into a world where my mum is "ugly" and "no, that's not your mum, right?". So yeah, I think these spaces exist and those who have extreme privilege never get to see what's going on by design.

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To deconstruct that exclusionary aspect there are cases where like
@tom_hartley said the most privileged have to do the heavy lifting but there are cases where it's not possible for you to. You literally have to stop and let us talk without interruptions as well. -
Personally, I find this balance very tricky - between speaking out, and shutting up. I'm naturally talkative, so I have to try to identify moments where it is best for me to be quiet, and then consciously shut-up (I don't always succeed).
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You're good IMHO, Aidan. Keep up the solid work.
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