Sadly, this seems to be emprically true. Is Open See really, inevitably, hostile to agreeable people...https://twitter.com/talyarkoni/status/1061004494937436160 …
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I find it ironic that he gives advice on how to criticize with kindness
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It's normal. Abusers and more generally not very nice people do exactly this to cover their ass. It works really well.
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Also not just to cover their ass but also to demand a better standard of treatment from others towards them. So they behave badly but then demand kindness. Kindness is great but tolerance for intolerance is basically what they ask for. Twisting rhetoric to their selfish needs.
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This why "nice" and even "kind" are really bad words. Weasel words. Everybody superficially agrees we should be nice and kind and yet they are useless concepts without further strict definition.
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I read ‘kind’ as very different from ‘nice’.
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Eg speaking painful truth can be a kind thing to do, even if it is not being nice. Nice had much less sincere connotation for me. Same with ‘polite’, or ‘civil’.
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As for Dennett’s piece, I think indeed ‘kindness’ may be the wrong word there. Better ‘charity’ in argumentation. Never experienced Dennet’s arguments as especially kind.
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