Let's make a thread about this article, shall we. It's not easy when your partner comes out as trans. Your relationship is very quickly redefined. My wife and I were lucky, I'm bi so the switch wasn't really a big deal for me.https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/oct/05/my-life-in-sex-woman-whose-husband-is-transitioning?CMP=fb_gu …
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But it is for a lot of partners. When your sexual identity is challenged it can be a huge shock. Changing the status quo is never easy. Chloe and I settled fairly quickly, her new name and the correct pronouns were very easy for me to switch too.
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But I find this letter quite upsetting. If the compromise is hurting you both then leave. It's easier said than done but putting those heavy conditions on your marriage is not healthy for either of you.
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If your partner wants gender confirming procedures and you are stopping them then that's coercion and is abusive. Leave and let her be free to be exactly who she is. It's not easy and not all relationships survive transition but it's most likely for the best.
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I agree with point that "this is not what I entered into". I married someone I thought was a man but for me, all I ever wanted for her was happiness and if transition helps her to be happy then I fully support it. That doesn't mean it's been easy though.
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TLDR: either support your partner fully, improve your communication, go to couples therapy
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Another great resource is
@DistinctionSupp The support I have found there has been incredible. Knowing that I'm not alone when I have doubts or when I'm upset has changed things for the better for me.1 reply 1 retweet 21 likesShow this thread
God this needed a TW for TERF BS at that link. Wow.
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Replying to @o_guest @DistinctionSupp
Sorry, I didn't think to add one. Apologies.
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