so while we get heated, we do argue in good faith, knowing ultimately we’ll be fine even if the issue remains unreconciled. i just think we need more of that here. more love and good faith, less judgment and desire to win. maybe we can all be just fine (barring some exceptions).
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Replying to @zerdeve
Hmmm, hard without facial and other physical cues I think — also too many Nazis on here.

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Anyway, I think the cross-cultural and the facial cue stuff is actually a big stumbling block.
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Not that I am discounting those but I tend to believe that ego and bad faith are bigger yet relatively solvable problems here. Once these are addressed, remaining problems related to cues would be fewer and less severe I think.
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Replying to @zerdeve
I am not sure I follow? Bad faith in what sense? You mean people assume malice? What about people assuming sexism?
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Replying to @o_guest
Yes assuming malice is what I mean. And a predetermined reluctance to listen and understand each other. I am referring to cases where opinions differ and there’s a lack of information/knowledge on both sides as I mentioned. Not all conversations fall under this category.
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Replying to @zerdeve
OK, I think it's really tricky because my prior is relatively well-calibrated (i.e., high) to detect sexism in certain online spaces. Would that fall under me assuming malice?
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I would not consider you (or myself) uninformed on this issue I suppose. But on my part, I still try to comment on the behavior (this is sexist) and not make an attribution to the person (you are sexist) which is my way of showing good faith. Exceptions still apply ofc.
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Ah, gotcha. I actually forgot you dissociate between the person and the act. You believe sexist people don't exist, only acts, right?
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Not really. I just don’t believe I can judge that properly from any single observation. And I believe misattribution of intent and premature character assasination are largely toxic aspects of social media. So I try to refrain.
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