Lewd comments. Sexual overtures. Groping. Restaurant servers put up with a lot in pursuit of the tips they need to make a living, constantly deciding where to draw the line.http://nyti.ms/2tAd3A8
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Servers ignore comments about their bodies, laugh off propositions and deflect behavior that makes them uncomfortable — all in pursuit of the tip that will help buy groceries or pay the rent. http://nyti.ms/2tSAcOL pic.twitter.com/SnxjlnPhV4
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These casual environments where alcohol lightens the mood and erodes boundaries prompt restaurant workers to ask: How much money will I make, and how much will I tolerate to make it? http://nyti.ms/2tIoyWt pic.twitter.com/nUzS55jVUg
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We also wanted to hear from you. Readers described the pressure to tolerate harassing behavior in order to earn tips. Especially telling? Many of you said the money made it worthwhile.http://nyti.ms/2u0vPRv
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WTF kind of stupid comment is this?
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The majority of inappropriate behavior was from management—not customers
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I was a server for 3 yrs. All i can say is every person needs to do that job for 1yr. What they deal with is borderline abuse. An absurd % of people develop an undeserved sense of entitlement when someone waits on them. I never leave less than 25% in normal situations
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@ZazieRestaurant a super popular brunch spot in SF went tip free quite some time ago. It's wonderful as a customer, I hope it made things better for the workers (I know that was the goal).Thanks. Twitter will use this to make your timeline better. UndoUndo
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I’m sure it depends on where you work, but I found the behavior among co-workers in the restaurant industry much more fraught with “harassment” and inappropriateness than from diners to servers.
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My old roommate called her waitressing gig "a lower form of prostitution" so yeah, people (mostly men) suck.
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Yes. But, I'd like to hear about harassment and unequal treatment that happens from management and back-of-house staff-- who are often older men-- toward the serving staff-- who, in my experience, are predominantly female and much younger.
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My experience is that the wait staff in most restaurants (both upscale and middle level) are more concerned about their tips than the level of service they offer.
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Yes! While reading this I was instantly flooded with THOUSANDS of memories of the times where I had to smile and completely ignore the way I was being treated to make money, or even keep my job!
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I don’t think it’s a problem in the UK ... except perhaps the odd grumpy Scot...
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Me, a Korean-American, served tables and a couple said, as I was just about to leave the table, "No way he's Chinese. He's too big to be Chinese". Also had a Korean man tell me I was White-Washed because I couldn't speak Korean. I just walked away both times and said nothing
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Yes These pigs seem to think being a customer bestows entitlement and power.
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NYT it’s not just sex that is a problem do you really think that the boss is going to pay us the same amount of money we make in tips???? No way let’s talk
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