.Incredibly disappointed in @missmayim for this. I was raised to believe "modesty" was righteous. Women should be in constant fear or guilt.
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But who benefits from this doctrine? Women? Sorry, nope. God? Debatable. The patriarchy? Absolutely. Scared/guilty women=easier to control.
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Some of my earliest memories involve the policing of my sexuality, before I even understood what that was. Church taught "immodest" = EVIL.
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I never wore sleeveless shirts, two piece swimsuits, short shorts. Never went off alone with boys. Did that stop me from being abused? NOPE.
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Were boys taught this modesty? HELL NO. Church says men are godly by design. Everything they do is sanctified. Even rape, within marriage.
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The next time you congratulate yourself for "shielding" your sexuality with modesty, ask yourself what you're hiding from. And who. And why.
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We attack one another instead of staying focused on them. Modest, provocative, demure, outrageous, we need to embrace each other as women.
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Yes indeed! Regardless of attire a women's physical being is hers and hers alone
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I’ve been harassed wearing a pair of jeans, an oversized sweatshirt standing next to my own mother. Should I try invisibility next?

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When I was in my second trimester with twins, looking like I was carrying a massive watermelon, a friend of a friend told me how sexy
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pregnant women are, and asking me about my sex drive, I had on fugly maternity coveralls and smelled like morning sickness. He joked he
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would take care of me if my husband couldn't. Has nothing to do with clothes, appearance, anything at all. Just stop
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Yes!!! I would get leered at when pregnant. It was alarming and made me feel most unsafe.
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Right? Unsafe and -for me - weirdly guilty! Like "what vibe am I inadvertently putting out there?!'
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I wondered "is it because I have had sex within the last year? " wore my wedding band despite major swelling as a way to keep them away.
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Well-intended piece, but please don't fall into the trap of thinking dressing modestly protects against assault. It's not about that.
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I don’t even know if it was well intended. It seems v self interested and just using assault victims to comfort herself for not being pretty
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What the hell does her appearance or even low self-esteem have to do with it? Harvey wasn’t stationed at the Playboy mansion for his victims
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Exactly. She tried to equate her escape from assault with her non conventional looks, but women of all shapes and sizes get assaulted
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I am fat & not good looking & seriously, my colleagues told me horrible stories about sex harassment that I never experienced 1/2
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Don’t get me wrong, I’d being victim too. But not every single day, in the bus, in the street, in the office, like my pretty friends. 2/2
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Plus: I do agree, however, sex offenders don’t mind if you are a nun or a naked woman in the street. Women are just objects
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Exactly. Whereas her point was that every woman should be a nun to avoid these sex offenders
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