I think the idea of needing a father figure is another way girls are taught to center cishet men. This is tied in with the idea of a nuclear family (which should be abolished). Having a father does not necessarily mean your life will be better or that there won't be more trauma
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In fact, there's a major possibility that trauma and harm will be present because of patriarchy!!!!!!
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I agree with you to some extent. But for some girls, having a loving and present father in your life is essential. It’s the first man you fall in love with and teaches you what to expect from a man that actually loves and cares for you. They set that bar.
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Not all girls are heterosexual lol. I suggest you read Communion by bell hooks
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I want my kids to have role models of every gender but fuck a father figure I want them to have an uncle figure, a third grade teacher figure, a neighbor with two dogs figure. parents shouldn’t be a kids whole life and fathers are not essential to kids well being.
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I grew up with a big extended family and it’s honestly the best family model there is- whenever I didn’t want to talk to my parents about something, there were several other people I COULD talk to (aunts, big sister figures, cousins, grandmas, etc).
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The mens are necessary in our society it's not a gender or patriarchy idea
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What I think is funny is father figures are "necessary" for girls but there is such a widespread phenomenon of men failing their daughters on fundamental levels that we have a name for it. Daddy issues. Yet we blame the daughter for acting out or seeking love in the wrong places.
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My aunt has three daughters, all about four years apart from the nearest sibling. Their dad, who was a very nice guy, died in 2014. My family, being a tight-knit Latino family, decided we didn’t want to let them feel that loss long-term, psychologically.
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We (my family having like a 5:1 ratio of women to men) surrounded them with love, we showed up to their every event, went on vacations, and did fun things with them. My dad and grandpa are the male figures in their lives, and they learn about relationships through all of us.
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