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I feel like there's an underarticulated distinction between activities where I care most about the output (e.g., my work, some hobbies) and activities where I care the most about the process of doing it (e.g., other hobbies).

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For passive hobbies (e.g., watching TV), I feel like most people are chill about not really seeking to improve. But some active hobbies can be like that, too! Not casting stones here: I find myself accidentally pushing myself to improve at active hobbies for exactly this reason!

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Oh yes, I should have emphasized that I feel this way about *my* work (within reason, otherwise burnout happens), but it definitely isn't normative. Work that's just about enjoying the process is legit, too!

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Now that I think about it, I wonder if this is a major source of conflict in workplaces and hobby groups: one person mostly cares about the outcome, someone else cares more about process/enjoying the journey. Seems like a good "value" to iron out?

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A goofy example: I like to cook, but I care mostly about creating a great outcome. My partner cooks for the joy of the process. Before we learned to be careful about it, we used to accidentally upset the other by making assumptions about what the other person wanted. 😬