so...a few thoughts on this back and forth as someone who was a virgin into his late 20s...https://twitter.com/sadydoyle/status/984495920866873346 …
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there's kind of a related discussion that sex workers are necessary or good because they provide people who aren't having sex otherwise with a way to have sex...which is less poisonous but still a bit dicey
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I mean...idk. Different sex workers have different relationships to their jobs, just like different workers in other industries have different relationships to their jobs.
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The point is just I guess that no one is owed sex.
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Having said that, I'm loathe to blame people who are not having sex for being ugly, or poorly groomed, or failing in life some other way. Among other things, lots of women who might like to have sex end up not having sex.
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The frame where it's just guys who end up celibate and all women can have sex whenever they want is untrue and kind of harmful, I think. It sets it up so guys are uniquely oppressed, which isn't true...
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and it buys into these gender stereotypes where men are always looking for sex and women are always refusing them. Which again, world doesn't actually work that way.
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Patriarchy under late capitalism is atomizing and alienating; making meaningful connections is difficult. People can be shy, or just have bad luck. Meritocracy is a myth when you're talking about sex as well as about financial success.
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so anyway. I have sympathy for people of whatever gender who find their sex lives alienating and miserable for whatever reason. Much, much less sympathy for ppl reacting to that by claiming they are owed sex or oppressed by ppl who don't want to have sex with them.
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No MRA thinks that...
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Lol. Do you have any examples?
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