I don’t want to go into greater detail about the specific charges on here because I know some of the accusers have been reading this thread. I’ll just reiterate that the “gray area” framing is what has caused critics (both male and female) to raise questions.
Because that's how the entire set of allegations is explicitly portrayed! Even the accusations with a physical element are portrayed as having an "emotionally manipulative" dimension, which is what makes them allegedly bad. As you yourself noted, rape/assault is not alleged!