1/ Human beings rarely signal their strengths consciously; what they mostly signal is their weaknesses (usually disguised as strengths), because these occupy their conscious mental space to a far larger degree than their strengths do.
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3/ Generally our lives are about solving problems, and most problems are caused by the inherent deficiencies and cognitive imbalances in our personality. We are always dealing with what we are lacking, attempting to bridge the gap and compensate.
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4/ Insights are a product of personal struggle with one's own demons. It is wrong to assume that the insight corresponds to anything but an attempt to balance aspects that are out of balance, and to take it at face value; often the person producing it struggles the most with it.
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5/ This is not a qualifier that pertains to the validity or usefulness of any insight, but it's an important qualifier in terms of how we perceive the individual producing it.
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6/ Instead of assigning to them an image of wisdom and ability beyond our own it's best to remember that this is in fact what they would like us to see them as because that is how they wish they were, but usually the reality is the exact opposite.
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7/ Paying attention to what people signal and how they signal it can be a very good indication of their personality (and its deficiencies/problems in specific). Often the more matter-of-fact one expresses an idea the more they themselves have a desire and need for it to be true.
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8/ Throughout our lives we will put emphasis on our deficiencies and usually our best insights are produced through that struggle, but they do not, by themselves, resolve it. It's useful to understand that the insight is an indication of a struggle, rather than of an arrival.
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Another example: when people obsess about productivity techniques, they likely struggle with not procrastinatoning and being effective. The most productive people I know obsess about productivity the least.
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Though one example that might challange this theory is fitness. When people obsses over working out and eating healthy, it's not necessarily because they struggle to get fit, but because you'll never have enough of anything you obsess about (... or bc it's how they make $$)
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Being in shape and-to some extent-eating healthily are objectively difficult things to do, regardless of a personal subjective weaknesses. 100lbs is always 100lbs. Being able to maintain those habits consistently is hard and we take pride/display that, not what comes easy to us.
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I’m trying to square this thought with someone like Jocko Willink. He talks constantly about Discipline. But given his past as a Navy Seal, and his photos of the gym at 4:30 every morning, discipline does not seem to be a weakness of his.
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The only way it makes sense to me is to think of it this way. Weaknesses exist in the mind of the beholder. Perhaps Jocko does feel discipline is a weakness of his, because he compares himself to a perfect will.
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Jocko's discipline is not a weakness, it's a strength. His personality naturally seeks its perfection. Strengths and weaknesses exist irrespective of the beholder, they can be objectively validated by observing patterns of action.
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I would agree -- but how do you square that with your claim that people rarely signal their strengths? He's the rare exception?
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“You teach best what you most need to learn”
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agree but also people signal things they have gainfully earned/learned and react when they see people not living to those standards. They are afraid that they, themselves, may slip back into their old habits. They see their old self
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1/I appreciate the insight. This just reminds recently how I have been writing and talking about being mindful and setting the mind free from thoughts and worries. Underneath, those write ups I was still battling with a free mind. I get to fall back to my 'vomit' in a cycle.
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2/ My friends and readers were marvelled at that the truth or insights I was bringing to the table. However, I did still struggle underneath my "masked write-up". I hope soon I don't write on being "mind-free". Maybe, by then I will be free.
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Thou dost protest too much..
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What is your busy mind hammering on about now??
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