There is no virtue without responsibility, and if either of those were stress-free, everyone would be doing it. The fact that reality does not conform to our preferences is precisely what necessitates both.
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I agree with everything up until the last part. I can only speak for myself, but anecdotally once I accept that my responsibility in a situation is simply to do the best I possibly can (rather than control for an outcome), I find ~99% of the stress melts away
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Most of my early life stress, again anecdotally, came from an over focus on outcomes, many of which I had very little influence over. The framework of asking oneself, "Am I being as true as I can be to what I believe here?" is, once practiced, not inherently stressful (for me)
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It is more focused on meditation and reflection than tension or strain
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Mircea Macavei Retweeted Mircea Macavei
What you're saying is true and I agree, but your definition of stress is getting very narrow.https://twitter.com/mistermircea/status/876697427931213825 …
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It seems your frame of reference is yourself only. When you are responsible for others, and they depend on your judgment and actions for their well-being, things get more complicated.
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William Minshew Retweeted Mircea Macavei
Yes, I agree that is my FoR. But what kind of responsibilities may one take for another? Certainly there are many (more for younger children), but can one truly take full responsibility for another without venturing into the out-of-your-control territory?https://twitter.com/mistermircea/status/973284837099532295 …
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Mircea Macavei @mistermirceaTrying to control what is out of your control is not being responsible, it's being foolish, because you are literally not response-able. Nothing you do makes a difference. As Frankl said, "When we are no longer able to change a situation we are challenged to change ourselves."Show this thread1 reply 0 retweets 0 likes -
Replying to @wminshew @mistermircea
Perhaps my overly narrow definition of stress is obfuscating my opinion here. I am not sure, but think you may be right. Something can certainly be hard without being stressful, and take effort/time/concentration/willpower.
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The term mental anguish comes to mind, but I have difficulty defining stress beyond that without explicitly using the word unnecessary. It is a state of mental pain. But because the pain itself is never involved in solving the problem, it is almost wholly unnecessary.
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Psychological stress is mostly self-created and unnecessary. But not all of it is. The pain is involved because the pain is an indication, an impetus, and a catalyst. Humans generally won't solve a problem until not solving it is more painful than solving it.
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In the original post I referred to stress as the byproduct of taking responsibility - you don't choose to lessen the pain, but to bear it, and work with it. Removing it entirely, as is succumbing to it, both extremes, don't serve a purpose at all, apart from prolonging it.
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