I would've thought revealing insecurities makes one more vulnerable, but sometimes it can make people *less* vulnerable. Maybe because they were already semi-obvious? known yet unsaid vs said and owned E.g. overweight people making fat jokes so others can't hurt them as much.https://twitter.com/QiaochuYuan/status/1254575976672976896 …
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I think that insecurities are often literally that: things that make you feel less safe/secure, as you expect that other people might use them against you. If you reveal them and don't get attacked for it, your mind updates that they are less risky to reveal than expected.
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(or if not things that others would use against you, then at least things that would make others think less of you)
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Also revealing things (somewhat) credibly signals to yourself and others that you aren't emotionally vulnerable in this space so makes it harder to attack you. "You're (thing that you're insecure about)!" "Yeah, duh, I just said that. Keep up".
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This is a big reason why screeching ‘don’t make jokes about x, it’s not funny’ really misses I’m v.thankful for going to a boys school where there was an accidental culture of wholesome shit-talking, with very low incidence of bullying, but pervasive shit talking and joke making
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