What's closest to your approach in romantic relationships? A - Sharing literally everything that is felt or thought B - Sharing what is tactful to share
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Replying to @nosilverv
Used to go with A, got bad results with it, now not sure what the optimal approach is.
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Replying to @xuenay @nosilverv
A is optimal but it requires people to be willing to invest the effort and learn the skills to pull it off successfully, and often it's worth taking some time building up to it as you build those skills together.
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A seems like a fantasty maintained where people value the content of their personal thoughts and feelings over the possibility of co-determined relationship I don’t know how to language this idea, but I think it’s like two people dancing near to each other instead of together
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Replying to @misen__ @DRMacIver and
Although it’s definitely possible that I’ve made a false dichotomy there and you can do A together if both people are well connected — whatever that means — enough to be comfortable to make that a feature of the relationship.
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I'm pretty close to A in two out of three of my relationship and relationship-like things. It works quite well, but it requires a lot of discussion and shared understanding of the nature of thoughts and feelings, and very good communication skills.
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Interesting, and cool that you can make it work. I’ve sometimes wondered about what it would take for that sort of hyper-sincere relationship, but then there’s this other big thing about rituals allowing for a less discursive mode of navigating and being in relationship. Hmmm 
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