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coherence therapy calls this "symptom coherence" - taking the stance that every thing you do that drives you nuts makes deep sense once you get the underlying emotional reality that's driving it. it very cleanly articulates something i've been grasping at for years and years

it's sort of impossible to convincingly explain via text, there's no real substitute for just directly experiencing how much your own behavior makes sense. but e.g. you don't just avoid going to the gym because you're "lazy," there is an actual coherent emotional logic somewhere

this seems more or less identical to Kegan’s system in Immunity To Change, except that Kegan takes the stance that the change is more gradual (rather than all-at-once reconsolidation)

getting the wording right is really important in my experience. if you only get the wording half-right in a cognitive sort of way it won't have anywhere near the impact of nailing the wording in "limbic language"

Yeah, if you try to fill out the table, w/o using limbic language & testing for resonance, 1 of 2 things'll happen: 1. your guess will be inaccurate and you won't really notice 2. your guess will be spot on but it won't actually HIT YOU—so still no agency:https://twitter.com/Malcolm_Ocean/status/1215844953299001344 …