all of this advice is downstream of / generated by something more fundamental. what is it? if i had to name it, maybe "understand, deeply, that the person you're listening to is real, exists as much as you do, and is a person you could love"https://twitter.com/dremilyanhalt/status/1149165769067884544 …
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Replying to @QiaochuYuan
Recently I compared meditation systems and the person’s experience to an uncanny valley. I guess that applies here; like map/territory but different because of the way we forget, and what happens when we do. Maps don’t talk back to us, but our veiled projections of a person do.
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Ah shit. Google maps talk back. Best take this analogy behind the shed and put it out of its misery.
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Listen quietly; show you’re present with nods not words
Don’t be thinking of what to say next
Allow for pauses & silence
Ask questions to help the speaker deepen or expand
Don’t feel compelled to fix or give advice
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