Mi'sen

If someone is nitpicking, yes, they might be trolling. But it's also possible that they have something to say — based on their understanding/experience — and are testing whether you're interested in a discussion.

Also, I used to work with a lady who did this because she didn’t understand things. Everyone else on the team assumed she was just playing a weird power game, but she just wanted clarification. Neurotypical communication strategies are wild.

If you were team leader, how would you have handled the situation?

Good question, I'm not sure what I'd have done in that situation because I wasn't aware of this dynamic until someone complained about it. I suggested to the individual that it might be worthwhile being aware that we often project intention onto other people without much evidence