michael_nielsen

On 2 - why would people not believe in compounding of utility? (Unless they have dysfunctional attachment styles I guess)

On 3 - I've been considering this recently. Long-term partner and I are in a LDR, and both work unpredictable schedules, but large chunks of time off. Probably more 'quality time' spent on the relationship despite this than people who work predictable 9-5 commuter jobs

oh, that's interesting. There's whole separate much larger sphere of thought I'd say that falls into category of. Which I'd roughly summarize by saying I think we vastly underestimate utility throughput we can have at the head of our relationship curve (curve being x axis:

Can you explain that last sentence, Kevin? What's utility throughput mean?

If you ask someone who they trust the most, or who their closest friends are. They will name them. But if you pushed them on what heuristics you'd use to tell the diff gradients of closeness, they'd realize many people don't even know many gradients--and don't have friends at som

e of the higher levels. This is true both personally and professionally. But being higher on these axis of trust enable new features of relationships that aren't possible at lower levels of trust. And we should seek these out (and strengthen more relationships to these levels) W

Yeah, I have some excellent relationships and a stupidly awesome community here in the Bay Area, with dozens of good friends, and I've realised in encounters with more normal people that the level of trust and closeness I have in my life is really. fucking. weird.