Marshall B Rosenberg, author of Non-Violent Communication (NVC), also wrote a short book called The Surprising Purpose of Anger. His model is that anger is triggered by other people, but not caused by it. It's a protective response to needs underneath that.
When I feel like I need more status, I have a fear that I won't safe protected otherwise. There's a need to be supported and respected.
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Further than that, maybe most goals are from alienated needs. A goal of being a better communicator might come from a fear that they'd be unappreciated otherwise. A goal of changing the world might come out of a feeling of personal worthlessness.
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This isn't to say the goals, the money, the anger, the status and whatnot are bad. But without addressing the underlying needs, we might be missing out on the things we want.
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