Marie La

@mesolude

Like warm butter on the toast of despair 🌱the opposite of judgment is curiosity || rationalist, dungeon master, writer

San Francisco, CA
Joined January 2013

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  1. Pinned Tweet
    Jan 24

    This was a super cute hell of a good idea

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  2. Retweeted
    Jan 31

    How many people contracted the 2009 H1N1 flu? (don't look it up)

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  3. Jan 31

    Longer conversations aren't more helpful. Once you build rapport, explore the issue, know what they're looking for, collaboratively search for solutions together, and make a plan, stop! Rumination and repetitive circling around are easy patterns to fall into.

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  4. Jan 31

    The guidelines are consistent with Authentic Relating (AR) and Non-Violent Communication (NVC). It's about empathy and listening, not judging, sympathizing, or trying to fix problems. broke: "I'm sorry" "have you tried X?" woke: "I hear you" "what does help look like for you?"

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  5. Jan 31

    Even the training is emotionally hard! I'm remembering the times in my past when I could have used someone like me, and wishing I (or someone else) had been there for past-me. Plus it's tiring to rewire thought patterns.

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  6. Jan 31

    They can assert things like "if you use the words 'strong/brave/proud', the texter is X% more likely to rate the conversation as helpful." Or, that the data debunks the myth that bringing up suicide will plant the idea in someone's head, and that it's safer to ask explicitly.

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  7. Jan 31

    I'm often cynical about organizations and institutions. This one is astoundingly effective and actually trying. The online training is great. CTL has the world's largest database on crisis conversations, and they're using it to increase the effectiveness of volunteers like me.

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  8. Jan 31

    I'm training to be a counselor for Crisis Textline (CTL), an asynchronous resource for cooling people down from hot moments. Already, I've learned a lot. CW suicide etc. Thread:

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  9. Jan 30

    Aspirational. My and all y'all's oversanitized personas need to act more from honesty than fear

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  10. Jan 27

    Getting clicker trained by internet strangers with no skin in the game feels uhh dangerous I turn off Twitter notifications from accounts that don't follow me to avoid this

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  11. Jan 27

    Newest blog post: Energy Healing????? Come in with questions on energy healing, leave with those same questions and more. Help me understand what's going on.

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  12. Jan 25

    Made an alt to talk about tabletop RPGs, enthusiastic spewing of a year of pent up thoughts ensues

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  13. Jan 24

    Anyone have recs for relatively math-light books on decision theory? I use BS decision theory all the time to think about cooperating with other people, my internal subagents, and myself through time. It's so useful. I expect a more formal understanding would pay off big time.

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  14. Jan 13

    . brought up nocebos, placebos' negative opposite. And that we might be experiencing nocebo effects /right now/, which could be some sweet sweet low hanging fruit if so

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  15. Jan 12

    I badly want to understand what that 'something' is that a colored pill or an entire surgery might trigger

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  16. Jan 12

    Discussion about placebos often focuses on the boring thing: "gotcha, the treatment didn't work the way you thought it would.." The cool thing about placebos is past that: "..didn't work the way you thought it would, because the body did ??something?? and fixed itself"

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  17. Jan 12
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  18. Retweeted
    Jan 10

    Romeo Stevens comes in with the best explanation I've seen of Suffering and Craving in Buddhism!

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  19. Jan 7

    Annoying stuff is hard to ignore and has little info, like snoring or dripping water. Boring stuff is hard to pay attention to but does have info, like driving or a dry lecture.

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  20. Jan 5

    maybe we don't have to fight our benign urges or see them as shameful! maybe I look more anxious or lower status because of it, whatever. hands, you're doing good. you do you. 🙏

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