Hector Martin

This is definitely a digression from the OP. Your first message on this thread came at the end of a particular train wreck of a day for me and it seemed I'd just lost a friend to gender politics, which didn't help.

We definitely need more accountability for overt bad behavior, and there's definitely a lot of that going around (and much of it goes unnoticed). That's what I was trying to acknowledge in the original tweet.

However, what @drtune pointed out, really going back to the previous thread we had, is that there's a very real problem of "treading on eggshells" when discussing these issues. Between people who broadly agree on social views, it's easy to let small differences of opinion amplify

Really I think there was just a significant impedance mismatch between intent (pushing back for a joke in poor taste) and how it came across (assumption of malice). This is yet another example where the terseness of Twitter really doesn't help.