An underrated dynamic in the gender wars is that not all conversational tactics are open to everybody. In particular, tactics men constantly use on each other, and laugh off, are seen as crushingly emasculating and humiliating when used by women on men.
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ten bonus points for emasculating as something negative toward women which seems paradoxical to a naive observer
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Gotta validate gender identities in how you deal with people, _in gender relational context_. One reason trans people are confusing to cis people is that we don’t know how to read their moves because there’s no learned relational context.
Thanks. Twitter will use this to make your timeline better. UndoUndo
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e.g. women seem more “emasculated” by what people call mansplaining than men do for similar behavior
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As I was arguing with Sonya, I think that’s rational. If you’re the only female engineer in a team of 50, then any imputed ignorance is much more dangerous for you since the 49 men will draw dumb n=1 conclusions etc. In a majority-women context, the mansplainer would look silly.
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