When you cut back on playing dominance games, you free up space to play “connection” games, which in a social sense require more vulnerability. Insulting someone is much easier than telling them you like them + accepting that they might not quite like you back in the same way
Dominance games are a subset of connection games in which you lose if you’re the less dominant one. In other connection games the fun is in subtle shifts and exchanges of power
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The beginner form of the connection game is the one where all players obey a facilitator who tells you to take turns. This structure is beneficial for people who are stuck believing they should always be only on one side of a power dynamic...
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...but can also reinforce the limiting beliefs that 1) players must be equal and 2) we must obey the one who makes the rules
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