I don't really spend much time on FB anymore apart from glancing to see if I have any messages or tags from friends, but for some reason I felt compelled to scroll through my friends list– and it's interesting to pay attention to my feelings about friends, and how they've changed
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for context, there was a time when I had more facebook friends than twitter friends (500-ish), and every single connection felt precious and important, IMO because it felt "scarce". even (especially!) connections that, on retrospect, clearly weren't a good fit for me (or them!)
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having interacted with thousands of more people since, I see my old friends much more clearly now. It's much more obvious now who's good for me, and who's not so good for me, & who I'm simply misaligned with. And knowing who the top 10-50 people are (to me) is the precious thing
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it's amazing on retrospect how much of my time and energy I gave, neurotically, anxiously, to people who absolutely did not appreciate it especially when you consider the opportunity cost – that was time *not* spent with people who *did* appreciate it
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there are also, quite clearly, people who kept me around in their life bc they wanted someone to fight with
oh, the bizarre rituals & tacit/subconscious pacts we get into with each other
these r/ships get strange the moment I decide I'm done fighting, sometimes in a good waypic.twitter.com/zOYr9ImmMP1 reply 1 retweet 15 likesShow this thread -
while I don't think I'm *naturally* extroverted, I feel like I've had to talk to thousands people just to *begin* to figure people out in general. how do you know that you know people otherwise? intuition? how do you know your intuition isn't broken, flawed, biased?
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We could turn that around: what makes you want to figure people out *in general*? In contrast to, say, having a small close group and just trying to figure them out more and more
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I was always the foreigner/alien in any group I was inhttps://twitter.com/visakanv/status/942444809528025088 …
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Visakan Veerasamy @visakanvBozoma was born in Connecticut to Ghanaian parents. She grew up moving frequently, including to Ghana and Kena, before settling down in Colorado. She was obviously Not White, but she was also not quite African-American, and not quite African. A foreigner everywhere. I feel this.Show this thread1 reply 0 retweets 0 likes
Ah, wow, thank you, it’s amazing to have my question answered with so much depth. Only possible online. Also this speaks to the “slingshot effect” of early adversity—one ends up progressing much further than those who did not grow up with the same tensions
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