Yeah, this! One other alternative useful dichotomy is “authentic” and “inauthentic”
You can simply check in with your body to see if something/someone feels authentic, without getting into morality.
"Things could be so much worse. Other people have it so bad. I have no right to feel angry or sad about this!"
No, you have every right to feel whatever you're feeling. Lean into that anger and allow yourself to feel it.
Understanding Anger (𝚝𝚑𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚍)
Anger is a misunderstood emotion. Society often paints it in a negative light. And there's a sense of shame attached to feeling angry.
But there are no wrong emotions. Every emotion provides us valuable information and guidance. [1/13]
Gratitude is such a valuable ingredient for a fulfilling life. But we gotta be careful so as to not use it to indirectly invalidate our emotions.
People often ignore their needs and hurt in the guise of "putting things in perspective".
We need new-age leaders to take up the responsibility to gently make things right through reason, dialogue, and strategic persuasion.
It will happen. We will make it happen 😤✌️
Also, just like we should avoid pathologizing the adaptive mechanisms of our mind, maybe we should avoid pathologizing the adaptive mechanisms of society
Seek to understand why things are the way they are. Meet reality where it is. Without that, we won't be able to enact change.
Some truth to this. But I'm not a fan of the whole "us vs them" mentality.
The government is not separate from us. It's a reflection of who we are. Painting the government as villains and shifting the blame onto them has always been the easy way out.
(cont)
If I did not perceive any threats, I'd have preferred to be more random and unstrategic, fuck around, travel the world, follow random whims. Hope we still have the room for that.
- Get a piece of land and become self-sufficient + harmonized with nature
- Build my skillset and augment it with powerful technologies (AI, Psychedelics)
- Collaborate with people working to solve our big problems
But aiming to not take it all too seriously and still have fun.
Stuff that's on my mind when I think about "preparation" —
- Accumulate BTC
- Develop physical strength and capacity for violence
- Find my life partner and tribe, build deep relationships (offline and online)
- Train the mind for equanimity and creativity
contd...
Can't shake this almost-constant background feeling that we are headed toward unavoidable disasters (financial, social, environmental) in the medium-term. And so my mind is slowly adopting the "prepper mentality", which feels weird because I like recklessness.
A pattern I'm noticing:
1) I do healing around X
2) Later, I find myself in X situation and still get triggered
3) Feel disappointed and question everything
4) But the uncomfortable feelings get metabolized quickly
5) And I start feeling okay while still exposed to X
contd...
True. Also, ironically, being hardwired for survival kind of makes you bad at surviving in the modern environment.
Fear-based living makes you vulnerable to all the stressors and significantly increases the risk of all-cause mortality (directly and indirectly).
Kind of messed up how being hardwired for survival makes you really good at surviving (via scarcity mindset) but not at most things that bring the highest valence states. Abundance mindset doesn't come naturally, yet is super helpful in finding friends/partners/jobs you love
Perhaps broken people will get sucked in. But "healthy" people will always have a strong desire for contact with concrete reality and nature.
And I am hopeful that we'll also be making equally RADICAL progress in the health domain. https://twitter.com/clairlemon/status/1513485184284254210…
I feel like as this happens it’s hard to remember what’s below or underneath or before. Like what happens if what feels like you for much of your life is built on this?
DALL-E's oil painting of "until you are overflowing with love for yourself and others, the work is not done, be existentially ambitious"
prompt suggested by
"Love went on and on
Until it reached an open door
Then love itself
Love itself was gone"
At first, love has beings as its object. But when the duality goes away, love has no object. As Shinzen Young remarks, true love is zero :)
Shinzen Young sharing his interpretation of Leonard Cohen's song "Love Itself".
Listening to the song after watching this was a mini religious experience for me.
https://youtu.be/eSv5ELuujjs
If you are an Indian citizen, you can take the pledge at
- https://organindia.org
- https://notto.gov.in
Please remember that you get to choose which organs and tissues would you like to donate.
We can be truly special only when we let go of the need to be special.
Because as long as we crave to be special, we'll unconsciously act in ways that block our genius.
One of the biggest sources of self-deception is our preconceived notions of what success/growth should look like for us.
When you want your future to fit a certain mold, you'll deceive yourself to avoid facings things that contradict the arbitrary external ideals in your head.
Yeah! Bringing "don't-take-yourself-too-seriously" energy into your inner work dissolves a lot of fear and shame.
Also, IFS/parts work creates fertile grounds for planting seeds of humor.
Having gotten almost to the end of Existential Kink,
it suddenly feels REALLY clear to me that humor is one of the most artful ways to surface kink (I will very loosely define as "the desires that we are embarrassed to admit we have")
Humor is another way to surface the shadow
In today's meditation session, I was feeling a bit restless, which was then accompanied by a faint visual of being forced to sit (in school).
Perhaps one of the reasons why it's not easy to sit for meditation. 12+ years of negative feelings associated with sitting.
Our emotions color our perception. So our relationship with our parents is bound to have a big impact on how we perceive the place we grew up in.
Of course, it's all very contextual and there are other factors.