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It gets complicated for me because adult me would love if I was given hormones immediately and I didn't have to do sex work to pay for them when I was younger and there were less hoops to jump through. Would have saved my life in many ways. But I can't deny the benefit of time

Dmab detransitioners usually get to s point where they can't perform femininity anymore or they get tired of being targeted as women. I see a commonality in why both dmab and dfab folks detransition -navigating around femininity

When I listen to dmab detransitioners so much of their gender is wrapped up in their clothing and makeup and feminine performance. Usually these people don't go more than a year or two living as transgender women and it all goes kinda fast.

It seems more common for dmab people to be encouraged to transition because they do not adhere to one narrow gender expression. Often men in the gay community encouraged to transition when they are too feminine.

Listening to detransitioners it's interesting because our concepts of gender are just so radically different. The idea of changing your body because you have certain interests or like certain things seems do bizarre to me.

The one thing I'll say is that transition is really serious and I definitely think that people aren't seeing it as that these days as much as when I was coming up.

I would never detransition. I couldn't and I'm not sure why I ever would. The idea of doing that I'd just do far outside of what I see as remotely possible. But I think that's because of how I came to my gender.

I think detransitioners have valid and important concerns and should be listened to. I think anyone considering transition should listen to why people detransiton.

I didn't transition to run away from trauma or to be some sort of glamour model. I transitioned because that's just what made sense and I'm pretty happy about it. Barely think about it these days.