I was at the tail end of a 7 year relationship with a really great person for whom I was ill-suited. I wasn't working and had no idea in what direction to take my career.
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I was in debt for the 1st time in my life because I made the mistake of going to grad school yet continued to live like I had the high paying job I had before (I was a pharm paralegal straight out of college which paid well but I quit that to follow my passion into politics).
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I was in a dark place. I'm an optimistic person but I had a hard time seeing my life improving. I wasn't suicidal, I don't want to minimize people in real darkness, but I was completely adrift.
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I was drinking a lot, daily, and
@tomselliott kept asking why I'd always drag him to bars with homeless people asleep in the corner.Show this thread -
I didn't want to be around functioning, normal, 30 year olds because I was so off the path and also those bars never really close so 4am would come and go and I'd still be out. I'd sleep till 5pm regularly.
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My husband was, actually, my best friend, that's not just something we say. He was main voice, along with my brother, who would reason w/me to get my shit together. But it's so much easier not to. Seriously, "when you ain't got nothing, you ain't got nothing to lose." So true.
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I don't have a secret sauce for how things got better but the summer of my 30th yr I slowly started to pull myself together. I got a consulting job, I spent more time with now-husband, I went outside during the day (that's a big one, it turns out). I took better care of myself.
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After some false starts, my husband and I got together for real that Thanksgiving. We were engaged in September and married the next April. Sometime I'll do a thread about what went right in my career after we got married. There's a lot of people to thank.
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I had to fix myself before I could be with him seriously and then just being with the right person went such a long way toward making everything else fall into place. He knew all my faults and they were ok.
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My big point is that everything seemed hopeless, really hopeless, and then a yr later I was at the start of the best decade of my life. It can turn around so quickly. Don't give up on yourself, don't wallow. Acknowledge you're in a bad place&work to get yourself to a better one.
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