Niceness is saying "I'm so sorry you're cold," while kindness may be "Ugh, you've said that five times, here's a sweater!" Kindness is addressing the need, regardless of tone.
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When I describe East Coast vs West Coast culture to my friends I often say "The East Coast is kind but not nice, the West Coast is nice but not kind," and East Coasters immediately get it. West Coasters get mad. 
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I'm a West Coaster through and through—born and raised in San Francisco, moved to Portland for college, and now live in Seattle. We're nice, but we're not kind. We'll listen to your rant politely, smile, and then never speak to you again. We hit mute in real life. ALOT.
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So often, we West Coasters think that showing *sympathy* or feeling *empathy* is an act of kindness. Sadly, it's really just a nice act. Kindness is making sure the baby has a hat. (s/o to breenewsome and BlackAmazon)https://twitter.com/Blackamazon/status/1020743466538676224?s=20 …
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When you translate this to institutions or policy, you'll see alot of nice words being used, & West Coast liberals/radicals are really good at *sounding* nice. But I've seen organizers & activists from other places get frustrated because nothing happens after ALOT of talk.
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Nothing happens after the pronoun check-ins and the icebreakers. It's rare we make sure that people's immediate needs are addressed. There's no kindness. You have people show up to meetings hungry, or needing rides home, and watching those with means freeze when asked to help.
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As we begin to "get back a sense of normalcy" or "re-calibrate" to what people in Blue States™ think is Right™ and Just™, I want us to keep in mind the difference between Niceness and Kindness. If something sounds nice, doesn't mean that its kind.
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Midwest is both nice and kind, unless you’re from a state that borders your state. West Coast sounds a lot like Southern hospitality.
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lol yes!! I’m from the south, now in Los Angeles.. as far as white people go: Southern hospitality is trying to hide the racism by saying “nice” things, while West coasters think they’re truly helping POC by saying nice things
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Lord, this is doing the numbers (for my piddly account at least) so, uh, check out my Soundcloud: https://www.lamberthouse.org/capital-campagin … https://salsa4.salsalabs.com/o/51476/p/salsa/donation/common/public/?donate_page_KEY=9738 …
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