What if I don't use your pronouns? Am I a bigot?
Pronouns in bio is as useful as whatever flag is currently recommended to virtue signaling. Expect none of them is a virtue, they are actually a "I obey" signaling.
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It depends on your reason. If it's because you're bigoted towards people like them, then yeah that would make you a bigot. Or maybe you're illiterate, or just rude. In any case, it's no different than calling someone by the name they introduce themselves with.
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it's almost like there's a difference between good faith and bad faith requests
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so generally in social situations we have "reasonable" and "unreasonable" expectations for deferense towards other people's behavioral preferences. what is reasonable or polite or not is of course subjective depending on the culture, so I'll speak to my own cultural context.
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calling someone by their preferred pronoun is on par with calling them by their preferred name in terms of difficulty, and so generally isn't considered a burden. this is what makes the insistence to _not_ do that sus if not offensive, at least in the modern social context.
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English Core has support for arbitrary names but does not support arbitrary pronouns. You have to apply a patch for each new pronoun you encounter. Mental overhead in tracking can vary depending on English language ability, mental ability, complexity and quantity of exceptions.
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there are also infinite names. in your memory you can just append the person's pronoun to their name, if it's that important to them. personally, I prefer the neutral "they/them" but am fine with "he/him" too, since that's what most people were trained to call people like me.
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You make it sound easy. I can barely remember names. Having to 4x that load (3 custom pronouns per person?) is a lot. I don't mind making the effort for my friends but would be opposed to a policy enforcing using others' preferred pronouns. It'd be discriminatory toward some.
I also have a terribly selective memory. I'm particularly bad at names, I often need a lot of repetition to remember. I think normal social conventions apply here: if you forget, apologize, ask for a reminder, and move on. if you're on twitter, check their bio if unsure 🤷♂️
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